We’ve been there: You shop long and hard to find the perfect wedding card for the soon-to-be married couple and then you get home and have a pretty rough time figuring out what to write in it. The good news is, there are no hard-and-fast rules about what to write in a wedding card. As long as your wedding congratulations message is heartfelt and offers the couple a positive wish for their marriage, you’re good to go.
A wedding invitation qualifies as one of those exciting mailbox treasures, you know, the ones where you can’t help but smile as you run your fingers over the envelope? If you’re planning to return the favor to the beloved couple by writing a wedding card, be sure to share your excitement with a celebratory “Congrats!” or “Best Wishes!” Then, make it extra special with a personalized note. Add in an anecdotal wedding message or a personal wish for the couple’s new journey together. Whatever you decide to write, say it from the heart. Say even more by adding photos to your wedding card to commemorate fond memories with the newlyweds.
The perfect wedding card message should be tailored to the couple, full of sentimental value and crafted from the heart. With that being said, no two wedding card messages will be the same. If you’re feeling pressured to say the perfect words, just don’t. Our wedding card etiquette guide features easy to follow instructions and specific example messages to help you navigate through what to write in a wedding card.
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Wedding Card Etiquette 101
It should almost go without saying that wedding cards are customary for anyone who wants to send wedding wishes to an engaged or newly married couple. If you’re following traditional wedding guest etiquette, you’ll either want to bring the card to the wedding reception or mail it directly to the couple (usually between the time you receive the wedding invitation and a few weeks after the wedding). Honestly though, you can send it whenever you want. You could even send a nice card if the wedding is small and you’re not invited. Simply put: Wedding congratulations are welcome anytime by anyone!
As for the card itself, wedding cards come in lots of different formats. There are the standard greeting cards you can find at a cute stationery shop (or online—try Minted, Paper Source, Etsy and Shutterfly). But there are also homemade cards, small tags attached to gifts and even simple, digitally created wedding messages that are printed and shipped to the couple with their gift. All of the above pass as a wedding card and are considered okay, so don’t feel the need to have more than one. (Then again, if you bought a gift off the couple’s registry and want them to also have a pretty card from you, take one to the reception and drop it in the wedding card box or on the gift table!)
Dos and Don’ts of Writing a Wedding Card
Be genuine. The key to a great wedding card message is to write from the heart. To avoid your sentiments feeling awkward or forced, don’t add quotes or lines that you wouldn’t actually say in person.
Write the card to the couple as a unit. The wedding card should be to the couple as a pair—not just a personal note to the individual you know best. It’s their wedding day as a couple, so your message should address them both.
Prepare what you’re going to say. To avoid mistakes, write out a draft of your message on a separate piece of paper before copying it to the wedding card. This will help you gather your thoughts and avoid mistakes.
Write too much. Keep your message short, sweet, and to the point. While it’s fine to want to express your joy or share a special memory, long stories or messages aren’t ideal for the small writing space available in a wedding card. If you have a lot to say, save it for an email, letter, or in-person conversation.
Scratch out mistakes. Mistakes happen, but it looks messy to just scratch out your error and keep writing. Either erase your mistake with a correction fluid (like White Out) or start over with a new card.
Make spelling errors. Proofread your note to make sure you haven’t made any spelling mistakes or misspelled the name of one of the newlyweds.
Get too personal. Although we encourage you to be genuine, the wedding card isn’t the right place to share a particularly personal (or inappropriate) message.
5 Things to Consider Before Writing a Wedding Card
Before you begin writing your message, consider the following:
- How well do you know the couple? How well you know the couple will help guide the length and content of what you write in the card. If you’re close to the newlyweds, your message should be more heartfelt and personal. On the other hand, a quick congratulatory note is more suitable for acquaintances and distant family.
- What’s the couple’s personality? What you write in the card should depend on the personality of the couple. A more reserved couple might not appreciate a witty one-liner, but would love more formal congratulations.
- Is the couple religious? If the couple adheres to a particular religious tradition, a spiritual verse or message can be a nice gesture. However, we caution against including religious wording if the couple is of a different faith or if you are unclear about their beliefs.
- Are you attending the wedding? If you are unable to attend the wedding, there is no need to explain your absence, but sharing that you wish you could be there to celebrate is a nice addition. Be sure to thank the couple for inviting you whether or not you are able to attend.
The Anatomy of How to Write Your Message
- Address The Couple Start off your message by addressing the couple directly
- A congratulation is in order. No matter what your personal writing style, this common expression is a great way to warm up your wedding greeting.
- Add a wedding wish tailored to the couple. Use the next few lines of the card to create a personalized wedding wish for the couple. Before you begin to fill the blank space, think about your relationship with the couple. What will the bride and groom enjoy reading after their big day?
- Thank the couple. Save a line in your greeting to express your gratitude to the bride and groom for inviting you to be a part of one of the biggest days of their lives.
- Sign off with a warm closing. Before you sign your name leave the newlyweds with a warm closing.
Wedding Congratulations Messages
Wishing a couple congratulations is oftentimes an expression people choose to include in their wedding greetings. It serves as support as well as a celebratory way to let the couple know they did a great job finding their soulmate. Saying ‘congrats’ is appropriate never mind which side of the aisle you are sitting on once the ceremony starts. Whether you’ve been best friends with the bride for years and have just met the groom or know both parties all too well, you can never go wrong with a sincere wedding congratulations message. Follow step one from above and pick one of your favorite congrats messages below or add them to your own words to get started on your wedding card.
- Congratulations to the wonderful two of you!
- This calls for congratulations and probably champagne.
- I hope through the years you become even better friends and share every possible kind of happiness life can bring. Congrats.
- May your marriage be filled with all the right ingredients: a heap of love, a dash of humor, a touch of romance, and a spoonful of understanding. May your joy last forever. Congratulations!
- Your wedding day may come and go, but may your love forever grow. Congratulations to the perfect couple!
- Through the storms of life, may your love for one another be steadfast and strong. Wishing you joy and happiness on your wedding day. Congratulations!
- Congratulations on finding each other! Your greatest adventure has just begun.
- Congratulations to you both on your very special day! May your wedding be filled with special memories you can treasure forever!
- Congratulations on tying the knot!
- You guys are great together. So happy for you two!
- ‘Two become one’- what a beautiful thing. Congratulations!
- Heartfelt congratulations.
- Warmest congratulations and love!
- Congratulations on your wedding day and best wishes for a happy life together!
- Feeling so much joy for the two of you as you join your lives in marriage!
- Seeing you two make promises and step forward into the future is so inspiring and wonderful.
Casual Wedding Wishes
After the ceremony when the couple opens their wedding cards they are going to enjoy reading each card for various reasons, but most importantly, because of whom they are from. Be yourself as you are writing your wedding card and make sure that your personality shines. If you are more casual, there is nothing wrong with keeping your wishes short and sweet. Just make sure that you build upon your congratulations and say something charming.
- Best wishes!
- We’re/I’m so happy for you!
- Wishing you lots of love and happiness.
- Wishing you a long and happy marriage.
- Wishing you the best today and always.
- So happy to celebrate this day with you both!
- Best wishes for a fun-filled future together.
- Wishing you fulfillment of every dream!
- Time flies and things change, but I wish that your love for each other would stay unchangeable.
- You’ve made me believe in true love. And I hope my belief will be unwavering forever, because it seems like you’ll stay together until the end.
Formal Wedding Wishes
You can also use your wedding wishes to mirror the theme of the ceremony. If floor-length dresses, glistening chandeliers and lavish centerpieces are a few big day details, look into using one of these formal wedding wishes to express your happiness for the bride and groom.
- Wishing you a lifetime of love and happiness.
- May the years ahead be filled with lasting joy.
- Best wishes on this wonderful journey, as you build your new lives together.
- Thank you for letting me share in this joyful day. I wish you all the best as you embark on this wonderful union.
- Wishing you joy, love and happiness on your wedding day as you begin your new life together.
- May the love and happiness you feel today shine through the years.
- When you two are knotted as one, both families and friends share in oneness of their marital union; may this marriage be a bridge to usher happiness, peace and prosperity.
- As you step into a new life as new couples, you become treasure to our community and the world.
- Let love be the focal point of your daily life. May you find hope, peace and faith in each other’s arms.
- Blessed is the man who finds a wife. May the joy of your new home be filled with laughter, smiles, kisses, hugs, respect understanding and faithfulness. Happy wedlock.
Funny Wedding Card Messages
If you think a funny wedding card message will put a smile on the bride and groom’s faces then go ahead and write something laugh-worthy. Just proceed with caution, you don’t want your wedding message to come off as sarcastic or insincere. Remember that a sentiment that may easily come across as a joke can be taken the wrong way on paper. With that being said, divorce jokes are off limits! Use your best judgement when writing your funny wedding wish and you’ll be well on your way to creating the perfect wedding card with a side of smiles.
- Thanks for inviting us to eat and drink while you get married. Congrats!
- Our marriage advice: love, honor and…scrub the toilet.
- Thanks for the free booze. Best wishes on a long, happy marriage.
- Marriage marks the end of a love story and the start of a wrestling match. Wishing you the very best of everything anyway.
- I’ll tell you the secret of a happy marriage. It remains…a secret to all! Wishing you all the best of times ahead.
- On your wedding day today, you have now become two from one. Does that mean I will get two birthday gifts from you both every year?
- As Bill and Ted said, ‘Be excellent to each other.’
- Getting married is like going to drama school. May there be more comedy than melodrama.
- Marriage is so beautiful. You have finally found that one person you get to annoy all through your life.
- Today I realized that life is not fair for single people like me. Until now I had to buy you a gift only once a year on your birthday. Now I have two birthdays plus a wedding anniversary to buy gifts for. Congratulations to my best friend on tying the knot.
Religious Wedding Wishes
Sharing a religious bond with the bride and groom can be the perfect way to tailor your wedding wishes. Think about the couple’s religious beliefs and views before you begin writing your card. Use their practices to guide your religious wedding wishes.
- May God bless you and your union.
- May God grant you all of life’s blessings and love’s joys.
- Love God first and it will be easier to love your spouse second.
- We are looking forward to finding out what God has planned for you two.
- Your marriage will be strong because the two of you are strong in your faith.
- May God’s love be the glue that holds your marriage together.
- We pray that God will bless your marriage and guide you in your new journey together.
- May the One who brought you together bless your marriage, enrich your lives and deepen your love throughout the years.
- ‘God has poured out his love into our hearts.’ Romans 5:5
- ‘Love is patient. Love is kind…Love never fails.’ 1 Corinthians 13:4-13
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Wedding Card Messages For Friends
Your best friend is getting married? Wish him or her well on their new journey with their other half with the perfect greeting. When writing a wedding card message for friends you can choose to be very personal or keep things more general. Again, the key is to think about your relationship with him or her and their significant other. If you stick with this, your love for these newlyweds will shine through your greeting.
- I’m so happy to call you both my friends.
- May you bring each other as much happiness as your friendship has brought to my life–and more!
- Here’s to love and friendship.
- We all need somebody to love, care about and trust. I’m really happy that my best friend has found this special person. Congratulations on your wedding and may your life together be a continuous honeymoon.
- We’ve been friends since childhood and who would have thought that we all would be married one day. But it happened and today is your marriage! Wish you two trust and understanding, patience and love.
- We’re so thrilled to celebrate this wonderful day with you both.
- Of all the big life events we’ve celebrated over the years, today tops the list.
- The fortune-teller we saw in Vegas was right. You did meet the man/woman of your dreams. Best wishes to you both.
Wedding Wishes For A Family Member
For those that know you best and whom you know best, you’ll want to create an over the top wedding wish. Whether you’re thinking of the perfect words for mom, dad or your siblings, these kin-friendly wedding wishes are sure to do the trick.
- Welcome to the family, we couldn’t be happier to have you. Best wishes to you both!
- We’re delighted to share this day with you.
- What a wonderful day for our family and especially you two. May the joy you feel today last a lifetime.
- Today, we add one more member to our family and we couldn’t be happier.
- I love you both. Thanks for letting me share in your celebration.
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Wedding Sayings For Brother Or Sister
When writing a card to one of your siblings who is getting married the best idea is to write what feels natural. You grew up with this person and have shared many of life’s greatest memories with them. Today is one of those new memories that will top this list and you can make it even sweeter by sharing a sweet moment or inside joke from the past. Make sure that you also mention the new addition to the family!
- For my sister who’s found love. May your wedding be the first day of many years of happiness to come.
- Today is the beginning of an incredible new journey looking toward the future and all that it offers. For my beautiful sister who deserves only the best, may your wedding day be everything you’ve dreamt of. Wishing you love, joy, and a long life spent together.
- We’ve been together for so long, as close as sisters can be and now it’s time for each of us to move in different directions. As your wedding approaches I wish for you every happiness. May you both enjoy all that this life has to offer.
- To my sister who has always meant so much to me. I am so happy for the wonderful love you’ve found. May your marriage be everything you’re hoping for. I’m wishing you all the best on your wedding day.
- To my sister, my friend, my childhood confidante. Now you’re all grown up and about to be a bride. Even though you’ll soon be walking down the aisle married and starting a new life with your husband, you’ll always be my sister and forever in my heart. So, I’m wishing you much joy on your wedding day and many years of happiness in your marriage.
- Brother, thank you for showing me what it means to have someone to count on. Take care of her, and be well.
- I know that the two of you will do great things in this world together. You are my brother, and a fine man; andy person with whom you would share your life cannot help but be equally excellent, and two such people cannot help but make us all better for being.
- We may have struggled as we grew up, yet now we stand together and are better for it. You and your love may struggle as you grow together, and you may struggle more than you and I ever did- but you will grow closer for it.
- We have shared good times, brother, and we have share times less good. And now I have gotten to share with you the joy of finding love and confirming it for all to see. I am sure there will be better yet- but what a thing to have to try to top!
- I cannot be happier as a brother than I am to see you so happy now on your wedding day. Be brave in your new life together, for there will be challenges, but you will overcome them.
Wedding Sayings For Son Or Daughter
It’s a big deal when your son or daughter gets married. In fact, you may even be asking yourself where in the world did the time go? In addition to that, when wedding day rolls around you will also be feeling a multitude of emotions. With a pen in hand, chances are, you may not even know where to start. Start by wishing well to the couple and the life that awaits them. You could also offer some of your own advice about marriage and love. This occasion is going to be one of those that’s extremely hard to put into words, so use your heart and let these example wedding sayings assist you.
- Walking you down the aisle is something that seemed so far away from the day you were born. It is my privilege to give you away to such a deserving and loving guy. My heart feels whole with the new son-in-law I am gaining. I have faith that you two will take care of each other and raise a beautiful family.
- I have never seen you look as beautiful as you do in a wedding dress. There is something angelic about my sweet daughter all grown up. You’ve got touches of your mother in you, but you’ve always had my smile. Best of luck on the future adventures and memories with your new husband. I love you.
- The first date you went on, we worried about our little girl. You’ve matured into a fine young lady that can take care of herself. It’s no longer our job to worry now that you’ve taken a great husband. Be wonderful to one another, and don’t forget to do the little things.
- The day you announce your engagement, I thought your dad was going to have a stroke. You have to forgive him for being so quick to assume the worst. Your new husband has found a place in our hearts like a son of our own. Love one another as best you can with every single day that the sun rises.
- I spent the majority of our life teaching you how to be a great woman. There are times that I am in awe of how much you know about life. You seem to have it all figured out, but marriage is a different type of lesson. It will turn out great as long as you are always supportive, forgiving and patient.
- I am so happy to see that you have grown into the man I had always wished you would be. Now as you move forward into the unknown with a sense of adventure, I wish you both so much happiness and hope you know how much you are loved!
- We are so happy to be adding this wonderful young woman into our family! It’s so wonderful to see how happy she makes you, and how happy you make her. So congratulations on this very special occasion and may you have only peace and love in your hearts for the rest of your lives.
- You are reaching a milestone in your life as you marry your beautiful bride. I couldn’t ask for a better daughter-in-law and am so happy to see the wonderful man you have become. She is truly a gift. I love you both.
- Seeing you as a little boy and now a grown man is a very unique sight. You have become responsible, gifted and a generous young man and now you have the chance to marry your one true love. May you both be blessed on your future together, and please know how much we will always love and support you both.
- As you move forward into the next part of your life, please know that I will always love you as my little boy. But I also know that each passing day brings more wisdom and growth. So, I proudly pass my little boy on to the woman that will make you whole. I love you.
What To Say In A Wedding Card To A Coworker
When trying to determine what to say in a wedding card to a coworker, keep in mind that you’ll probably want to keep your greeting pretty casual and standard. It can be a great idea to find a wedding quote that inspires you and share that with the almost newlyweds. Again, what you decide to write will all depend on your relationship with your coworker. If you have a close relationship with a colleague getting married you may want to find message inspiration under what to write in a wedding card for a friend. If not, these office appropriate greetings are the perfect addition.
- Best of luck to you during this special time of life. We cannot wait to see the way that marriage improves your life and how a spouse makes you a better person.
- You’re giving hope to all of the single people left in the office. Best wishes to you and your new spouse with your new life together.
- A marriage is a perfect union when two people become a team.
- We’ve seen such a change in you at the office and we’re so happy that you’re happy. Congratulations on your marriage and we wish you the best during this new stage of life.
- So happy you’ve finally found the one that completes you and enhances you as a person. Wishing you the best during this special time in your new life.
- Thank you for inviting me to share in this day with you and your family.
- I am so glad that I have gotten to know you at work and I wish you and your new husband/wife a long happy life together.
- Wishing you success-and most of all happiness-in your marriage.
- What a wonderful day to celebrate my coworker. All of the best to both of you in marriage.
- Everyone at the office is so happy for you. Congrats!
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Wedding Card Closing
Before you sign your name on the card make sure that you add a sweet closing for the couple!
- With Love,
- Lots of Love to you Both,
- Congratulations Lovebirds,
- Congrats Newlyweds,
- Love Always and Forever,
- Best Wishes for Your Future,
- Take Good Care of Each Other,