Getting married? Now, you have to wear your wedding ring till eternity – how many of you have come across this statement? Almost everyone. Isn’t it? But have you ever thought what the reason behind this is? Wearing a wedding ring is however termed as a ritual, but is it only confined to this? Or is there something else that you are still not aware of?
Hold on, guys. You don’t have to submerge yourself more into the ocean of thoughts. Perhaps you have asked this to your guardians or friends. But today, you will get to know the exact reason for wearing your wedding ring. However, to know them in detail, you will have to travel thousands of years in the past. So, are you ready? Let’s begin the journey.
If you turn the pages in history, you will find that the concept of wearing the wedding ring is not evolved today, rather it has been prevailing for years.
Symbol of trust:
Let us travel to ancient Egypt. Thousands of years ago in Egypt, there was a ritual of putting a ring on every bride’s finger. These rings were made of reeds and plants growing on the banks of river Nile, which were again twisted and braided into a circular structure. At that time, there was no diamond, no gold. These rituals were only breathing based on people’s beliefs. They used to consider that the ring is the symbol of eternity and the love between the couple. They believe that wearing a wedding ring reflects that the groom had full confidence in the ability of the bride to take care of his house.
This is said to be the initialisation of wearing wedding rings on the left hand’s ring finger.
Symbol of commitment:
In the middle ages, marriage was believed to be a financial arrangement. Keeping this in mind, the groom used to present the bride and her family an expensive wedding ring, in order to prove to them that he was committed to the marriage and would never take his step back. The family used to protect this ring until their wedding was not over. Thus the ring became the symbol of commitment towards each other.
Till then, the ritual was moving at the speed of a tortoise, but it gained its momentum in the middle of the 9th Century.
Symbol of Status:
Have you heard of Pope Nicholas? Come on, and you must have read about him in school. Don’t you? However, you will keep this in mind or not, that of course, depends on your degree of attraction towards the subject.
Now coming to the point. Pope Nicolas I during his reign made a gold ring on the occasion of his wedding. He just wanted to showcase his status and prove his ability to take care of his wife.
Symbol of attachment:
Wearing a wedding ring also proves to be the symbol of attachment. It may signify that the woman is married, but it is also considered a symbol to show her affection towards her love. It has been said that the vein of the fourth finger of the left hand is directly connected to the wearer’s heart. Do you know, what does that mean? It means, once you are wearing the ring on your ring finger, you both are connected by your hearts, and no one can split you into halves until eternity.
Now, the role of a diamond comes into the picture.
Symbol of a stable relationship:
In the year 1477, Archduke Maximillian of Austria presented a diamond engagement ring to Mary of Burgandy. During this period, people believed that diamonds hold magical powers, that can heal every wound. Moreover, it was considered the symbol of a stable and pure relationship.
Keeping all these above-mentioned factors in mind, today, in the name of ritual, the exchange of wedding rings takes place, and one is asked to wear it for eternity. However, in history, we have not come across the wedding bands for men. All we have learned about the wedding rings for women. It has been found that the men’s wedding band gained its pace during World War II. In this phase, the men who were separated from their brides wore wedding bands as the remembrance of their loved ones and their commitments towards them. Initially, the wedding bands they used to wear were simple gold rings. But today it has been modified into diamond-studded rings.
Why Wedding Rings Matter More than You Think
Whether or not you’re wearing a ring is one of the FIRST things people notice when they meet you, and they’ll often make assumptions about your availability and your commitment to your marriage based on the ring’s presence or absence.
Your ring is a daily reminder to you that every decision you make will impact your spouse in some way.
A ring is a tangible symbol of the permanent place your spouse should hold in your heart, your schedule and every part of your life. From the moment you said, “I do,” every aspect of your life is now connected to your spouse. You’re “One” according to the Bible. Everything you do with your time, words, money, etc. will somehow impact him/her, so the ring is a simple reminder that everything you touch will touch your marriage.
Your ring is a symbol of RESPECT for your spouse.
Respect in marriage isn’t measured only by what we say. It’s often the silent acts and actions that speak the loudest. Respect in marriage is communicated constantly (since marriage is a constant relationship). The ring is one simple way to communicate that respect, ESPECIALLY when your spouse has asked you to wear it and/or communicated that it’s important to them. If your spouse has asked you to wear it, and you consistently deny their request, then you are consistently communicating disrespect and disregard for his/her feelings.
Your ring is the first line of defence against infidelity.
A ring isn’t a fail-proof safeguard against infidelity, and it’s certainly a simple first line of defence. Wearing a ring subtly communications the message that, “I’m married. I’m committed. My marriage matters to me.” If you’re trying to be “married undercover” by keeping your marital status a mystery in public, that’s NOT healthy. Some people (who have no respect for marriage) may still proposition you while you’re wearing a ring, but you can prevent many unnecessary temptations by simply wearing it.
Your ring is a visible symbol to your kids that your marriage matters.
One of the most important lessons you can teach them is what a marriage should look like if you have children. Have the kind of marriage that makes them want to get married someday! Show your kids the beauty of a husband and wife committed to each other in both public and private. This requires MUCH more than just a ring, but the ring will be something they notice, and it can provide opportunities for you to talk about why you wear it and what it represents.
There aren’t any good reasons for NOT wearing it!
As I said initially, there are some practical exceptions to this rule, but overall, when it’s simply a matter of preference, why not wear your ring? There are so many positive ways it can help your marriage and no downside. If your attitude isn’t “Well, I shouldn’t have to,” and instead you think, “I always want to do everything in my power to respect my husband/wife and protect my marriage,” then you’ll be on the right track.
Why Wedding Bands Are Important; How It Became A Very Important Marriage Culture
About 5000 years ago in ancient Egypt, sedges, rushes and twines found growing along papyrus trees were harvested and ornamentally twined in circular forms on fingers of newlywed women. This circle, which is an endless loop, represented eternity and infinity. Rather than the modern-day “till death do us part”, it was an insignia that meant “our love, this bond, and alliance, even in death, in the afterlife”. Although the bands were made of at the time did not last for very long after the wedding ceremonies and had to often be replaced, the concept was well accepted. Over time, they found more durable materials to make these rings. The material not only became more durable, it as well became more expensive, more aesthetically pleasing and more customised.
When it was adopted much later by the Romans, it signified ownership rather than love. The ring’s offering and receipt meant that they had a claim on the girl or lady. The Romans were the first to make their rings of iron, signifying strength and lastingness when someone was to be betrothed. They also were the first to make engraving on their rings. Subsequently, the idea of wedding bands was accepted by Christians. However, while in the Christian religion, it is worn on the fourth finger (the pastor touches the ring on each finger beginning from the thumb; acknowledging God, the father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit and finally slides the ring in the fourth), other religions and cultures have different ways of wearing the ring. For the Jews, it is worn on the index finger, for example. However, regardless of the religion, culture or where it is worn, wedding rings or bands ultimately signifies a promise of infinite, unending love.
Wearing Your Wedding Ring – Should you Wear it all the Time?
The wedding ring is symbolic of the vows that the two of you took on your wedding day. Many people, especially women wearing the ring, give them a sense of belonging, pride, and a very outward statement that shows they are taken, claimed already. Men, don’t always see it the same way. In marriages, mostly the men who tire of wearing their wedding ring and give it up altogether. If this bothers you as a wife, then say something. Don’t wait five years and then blurt it out in the midst of an argument.
If you have a reason to remove the ring, then instead of waiting for your partner to notice talk to them about it. Not making the removal of a wedding ring a big deal, is often the best way to avoid an ordeal. The bottom line is that many people find it offensive for a married person to not wear a wedding ring at all times. Yet, there are likely just as many people who don’t need the status symbol of a ring to remind them that they are married in this crazy world today. As the marriage progresses, it is very normal for people to become less attached to the ring itself, and more attached to the marriage! And this can be a very good thing. Being confident in your relationship, and your partner is a wonderful part of being married, that no ring can duplicate. So, will you be wearing your wedding ring today? If not, could you tell us why?
Reasons Why it’s Important to Wear your Wedding Ring?
For many generations now, wearing your wedding ring is the common ritual practised by almost all societies around the world. If you look through the pages of history, you will find that this concept of wearing the wedding ring has not evolved in recent times. Instead, it has been prevailing for many years.
However, have you ever wondered what the reason behind this is? And why does this ring hold so much significance?
Here are a few reasons why it can be important you wear your wedding ring:
Wedding rings are a symbol of commitment to your significant other. Wedding rings have been tokens of commitment for centuries, dating back to the middle ages where the groom would present the bride and her family with an expensive ring in order to prove his commitment to the marriage and that he would never step back from this relationship. The ring signifies that you are in a committed relationship and having the ring on you at all times goes to show that you are open about this and that you are willing to show it off. Seeing the ring on your finger on a daily basis can also serve as a reminder to your partner about how much they mean to you and that it is them out of everyone else that you chose to spend the rest of your life with.
Wearing a wedding ring can also prove to be a symbol of attachment, love and affection. Although in some cases or societies around the world, marriage is not always believed to be the product of love but in any case, wearing your wedding ring goes to show that you are attached to the person you are married to and that they hold significant value/meaning in your life. Furthermore, the ring can almost act as memory itself as it can make you reminisce about all of the good times who have shared with your spouse in the past, in times when you miss them the most. Along with being the representation of holy matrimony, the ring also has attached fond memories that you and your better half have shared over your time together.
Your wedding ring can also trigger you to think about the decisions you choose to make keeping your partner in mind. With your wedding ring on your finger, there comes an added responsibility, and that responsibility is to keep your partners respect in mind. You must understand that you are no longer single and that your actions can affect you and your loved one. Therefore you must think twice before making certain decisions and ask yourself: “Am I being respectful to my partner by taking this decision?” Respect is crucial not only in marriage but also in any relationship. Keeping your partner in mind will ensure that your relationship/marriage is a stable one and a quiet way of expressing your partner’s importance in your life.
A key reason as to why you should wear your wedding ring at all times is to avoid or block out any unwanted attention. Infidelity is one of the biggest reasons behind marriages ending in divorce, and it is something that a lot of married couples are in doubt of even though they may not admit to it. Having your wedding ring on can prevent such unwanted consequences from occurring as it sends a message to anyone that you may interact with daily, that you are in a committed relationship. It is also said that the most common cause of infidelity is often emotional disconnection from your partner or feeling unappreciated or unloved. These feelings cannot be completely avoided as every married couple faces their ups and downs. Yet, you can still do your part by wearing your wedding ring every day in honour of your partner and to prove that you are and always will be attached, committed and respectful to your partner as discussed above.
The fifth reason to always wear your wedding ring is that it sets the right example for your children, along with giving them the impression that their parents’ marriage is secure. As time goes by and your children get to ages where they begin to understand the concept of marriage and healthy relationships, seeing you wearing your wedding ring every day will teach them the significance of the ring and they will learn the reasons behind both their mother and father choose to wear their rings till this day. In other words, your future children will be more likely to have a healthy perspective on marriage by learning from the example that was set by you and your significant other.
In conclusion, your wedding ring defines and highlights the love, commitment, and respect you have for your partner while also acting as a shield from any negative/unwanted entities. Your marriage has nothing to do with the perfect diamond ring or gold or any other metal at the end of the day, what matters most is the love between two spouses, not the ring that you gift.